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Post by Ana Donovan on Mar 6, 2006 17:38:20 GMT -5
Okay guys, this weekend has totally sucked. I'll tell you why, and I ask for your prayers. This is the saddest thing that has ever occurred in my life, and right now it's more important than rping to me.
I woke up Saturday, expecting a normal day. I received the most abnormal in return. My mom told me that a boy I had known since kindergarten, Jordan Ordway, had been in a car wreck and his condition was unknown. I saw the article in the paper, and his Grand AM was flipped over, totally smashed in. I immediately had the feeling he wouldn't be with us much longer and choked back tears.
My mom was on the phone most of the morning, informing me of his current condition every now and then. She managed to get the entire story. Jordan had been speeding and driving without a seatbelt. At 3:15, on his way home from school, he crashed into another vehicle. The impact threw him from the car and the car flipped, and his head went through the sun/moonroof.
Some of the coaches had gone down to Columbia to see him, and two of them are my teachers. They managed to tell us that at the hospital he suffered from shock. He couldn't talk, but if you told him to squeeze your hand, he would. They did loads of tests and said brain activity seemed normal. Needless to say, everyone was hopeful. His family, the coaches that had gone down to see him, and his friends were convinced he was going to be okay.
Later that day, seemingly out of nowhere, the shock wore off and blood rushed to his head. Jordan was brain dead within minutes. Nurses rushed for doctors as his pupils dialated and Jordan had a stroke. He died around eleven o' clock on March 4, 2006.
Jordan Ordway was only sixteen and a sophomore at my school. He was nice, funny, good-looking, intelligent, and an all around beautiful person. He taught me that even though you would never think it could happen to you, it has just as much a chance as happening to you as it does to anyone else. Love your friends, family, and classmates. Death happens within seconds and at any time. Don't do what I'm doing: Regretting never getting to know them. Losing someone is, in my opinion, the most painful thing you'll ever have to go through. Even though I didn't know Jordan very well, he will always be in my heart.
So I ask you to pray, pray for Jordan, Jordan's family and friends, and the entire student body of Helias High. The second we heard he died, we all felt a loss, even those (like myself) who didn't know him very well. Any thoughts and prayers you could send, I would very much appreciate. In tribute to him, my school is wearing orange (the color of his hair and his favorite color) shirts all week except Friday, when we're going to wear green (the color of his eyes).
One last thing to say before I finish lecturing. No matter what, even if you think it's stupid, wear a seat belt when you drive or ride. The other girl in the crash suffered no injuries when wearing a seat belt, and the one time Jordan did not wear a seat belt he certainly paid for.
IN LOVING MEMORY OF JORDAN C. ORDWAY SEPTEMBER 6TH, 1989 ~ MARCH 4TH, 2006
GONE, BUT NEVER EVER FORGOTTEN. . .
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Post by Mikey Deegan on Mar 6, 2006 19:04:41 GMT -5
Tha...Oh, I am so Sorry! I have fealt losses such as that at my school as well, and I know how you feel. All of my prayers are to him, and his family. God Bless.
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Post by ABBA on Mar 6, 2006 20:24:50 GMT -5
Forget RPing, there are much more important things in life than Our Hogwarts. Real life, school, family and friends just to name a few. Since everyones emotions are differant and people greive in many ways I can't honestly say I know how you feel even though I have been in your situation far to many times but I do feel for you and everyone involved. I lost alot of close and dear friends in High School due to stupid things such as not wearing a seatbelt, drinking and driving and suicide and it never gets any easier to deal with and it's something that you never forget.
Like I said, I lost many great friends just while attending High School and some were killed by the pure stupidity of not wearing a seatbelt. Yes I hate to burst anyones bubble or mood and I am not trying to take the attention away from Ana's friend Jordan Ordway but not wearing a seatbelt is pure stupidity and to quote Ana ""and the one time Jordan did not wear a seat belt he certainly paid for."" Why you ask yourself am I coming out with an Abba rant now you ask, well hush, pay attention and I will tell you!! Alot of people think that seatbelts are a hassle, uncomfortable or I'll put it on when I get down the road or I'm just going to the store so I don't need one. Well guess what, the ONE time I didn't have my seatbelt on..the one time in maybe 10 years that I didn't was last summer and I was in a wreck. And I was less than a half mile from work, my thinking probably was..I had worked all day and ready to get home so I'll just leave work and put on my seatbelt while going down the road. Now guess what, less than a half mile from work I was going around a curve and an oncoming car came around and was in my lane. To keep from hitting the car head on I swerved and ran into a drainage ditch surrounded by a concrete and brick barrier. I ran head on into it at between probably 35-45 MPH..and beleive me, it hardly gave an inch causing my car to come to a sudden stop at that speed. So needless to say my face and head took all the impact..first against the steering wheel and then the windshield and getting thrown who knows where after that. Well I'm guessing on some of that since to this day I still don't remember much for about 3 days after that. I do know that I had my head busted open in several places including my face, lips, forehead a huge deep gash on my head not to mention the other breaks, fratures etc throughout my body. I spent many weeks in the hospital and to quote the doctors who operated on me and helped me recover "I was EXTREMELY lucky to be alive!!" and even through a miracle that I wasn't killed I am lucky that I didn't receive to much permanent brain damage or other injuries. I still have some problems from my wreck and that was almost a year ago but as I said, I am very lucky to be here today writing this. As the doctor also said, 95% of people who are involved in the same accident or less severe end up dead, 2% likely end up in a vegtable state, and 1% suffer some type of brain damage indefaintly. Since many of you know me more personally than Jordan maybe you will take Ana's and my message serious and think before you start up a car and remember how stupid and suicidal driving without something as simple as a seatbelt is.
With that being said I want to send out my deepest thoughts and prayers to the family, friends and loved ones of Jordan Ordway and to our dear friend Ana in their time of sorrow. I have you in my heart and in my prayers..God Bless.
With all my heart and love, D.J.
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Post by silaz777 on Mar 6, 2006 21:07:37 GMT -5
Ana, I'm sorry to hear that. I've only experienced a death of a friend but he was not close. Yet it was a shock to me when he died.
I pray that Jordan Ordway is well in the hands of the LORD and that his family will carry on with their life, knowing that they are in his heart. It is tough for everyone to go through a death of someone so close.
I prayed that Ana, you will also be well and that your sorrow be short-lived.
Love, Silas
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Post by Arri Faltskog on Mar 6, 2006 22:05:18 GMT -5
There were these two girls on my swim team from high school during their senior year. They were both in a car crash. I have no idea who was or wasn't wearing a seatbelt but I think they were not... and they were in the back seat. One of them flew out the window and is now paralized. I saw her when she was in the Intensive Care Unit and it was heartbreaking. To see someone you met in highschool like that is horrible. And then my other friend, she was not as bad but still it was very sad, she had to get surgery to fix her face and everything. They were lucky to survive and make it to their graduation but it took a lot of surgery and everything to get them better, and yet one of them is in a wheel chair to this day. This proves that not just the driver can get hurt, but those in the backseat too, hence why even though not required, I still wear a seatbelt in the back. This is a serious matter and as Abba just proved, even the most invincible are defeated by a car crash when not wearing a seatbelt. I remember that day when that accident happened. I was a wreck when I found out and was just torn up thinking about what happened to him and everything, worried sick till I could talk to him again. Being worried sick about someone you love is heartbreaking so take that extra time to put that seatbelt on so you can save your loved ones the unneeded heartache. It's already a dangerous enough world, so take those precautions to save yourself from anymore harm, especially the types that you can prevent. I made this image when Abba had his accident and used it on a webpage I have... it is simple but really we should all listen to what the image says.... I am sorry about your loss Ana, it is indeed a hard thing to deal with, no matter if you were best friends with the person or even just knew that they went to your school. It is a sad time to lose someone, especially so young. My thoughts go out to you, your friends, your school, and especially his family. The times will be hard but if everyone sticks together and remembers the good times and that Jordan is in a better place. All My Love, Erika
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Post by Elessar Garrison on Mar 6, 2006 23:22:24 GMT -5
I would like to extend my condolences to all of those who have lost loved ones and I have lost classmates and family before. I remember a lesson from Sunday School. An Analogy was used that Our lives are like wisps of steam, fragile in this world.
While typing this post I had a moment of silence for those we have all lost in our lives. Their bodies my have died, but as long as we keep them in our hearts and minds, they will always be alive.
All my Love, Elessar Garrison
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Post by fantelio on Mar 8, 2006 8:27:31 GMT -5
Hey Ana...
I know how sad you feel. Last year, my best friend, in the whole entire world, died in a car crash, like Jordan. She was my best friend, and she was only 12, like me. (last year.) Somehow or another, she was the only one that had passed away, as the rest of her family, that was in the car as well, suffered minor injuries. Maybe it was the fact that she was sitting right next to the window, I don't know.
I went to her funeral. Cried all day. Cried all night.. Life wasn't the same without her anymore. Well, my best friend wasn't really clever, or smart. But she was my best friend, and will always be.
This prayer goes out to Jordan:
Dear Lord...
Recently, Jordan Ordway passed away due to a car accident. I suppose, you know if it, Lord. I pray that Jordan's family and friends will get over his death soon, and continue their normal lives. I think Jordan will not want them to be too upset about it. Lord, I pray for Jordan's friends, that they may also continue their normal lives.
In Jesus Name I pray, Amen.
((i'm a christian...))
Love Always, Gillian.
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Post by Farrah Flores on Mar 8, 2006 12:03:51 GMT -5
Ana, I am really sorry to hear about your loss. It is so hard to hear about losing someone, especially someone so young. My prayers will be with you and your friend, and his family in the days to come.
I hope all of you who view this page pay attention to the advice about seatbelts. When I was a teenager, I lost my very best friend in the world, who was my first boyfriend, and his parents to a happy driver. Neither of his parents were wearing seatbelts, and his own was not fastened properly. His older brother was the only survivor from their car - he was the only one wearing a properly fastened seatbelt - and he was in a coma for over three months. He woke up completely alone in the world. They were less than half a mile from home, they had been coming from a Christmas party. So many people justify not wearing their belt with, "I am only going a few blocks." The majority of accidents happen within a mile from home, based on statistics I read in the paper a few years ago. Please - even if it is only a few blocks, or just ONE block - don't forget to buckle up. You aren't the only one affected. The people left behind are just as victimized as the ones lost.
Please take care Ana, and God bless.
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Post by Yvette on Mar 8, 2006 12:12:03 GMT -5
Awww *huggles* i cant even begin to know how that must feel. We can all learn from that. My thoughts go to your school and his family, i hope he is in a better place.
Love and huggles
Yvette
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Post by Perrin De'Orden on Mar 8, 2006 12:24:39 GMT -5
Ana- my deepest sincerest condolences go out to you as well as my thoughts and prayers to all those who felt the pain of Jordan's passing. To all please remember to either "Click It or Ticket" or worse.. much much worse. Having been in and survived a life and death car accident myself 15 years ago and knowing what I was thinking as I was lying there waiting for the ambulance to arrive makes me and us all realize how mortal we truly are..and how many things we take for granted and that in a blink of an eye those things can disappear. never leave to tomorrow what you should or want to say because sometimes tomorrow may never come. Again rememeber to buckle up and never drink and drive or go in a car where someone has been drinking and is now driving. You enter a car where a wreak is waiting to happen. it should never be circumstances like this with Jordan to make us realize how precious life is and what things we do that are stupid and life threatening. We should realize it all the time.
Godbless Jordan
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Post by Ana Donovan on Mar 13, 2006 19:54:51 GMT -5
Hey, guys. I think I'm back. I really, really appreciate the prayers. Here was a little overview of last week.
Last week sucked. It was hell. Monday morning anywhere you went you could find girls crying. This was before class ever started, and already the hallways were totally silent. Pretty much all of my teachers told us throughout that week we would be doing next to nothing. We could talk, do whatever we wanted, as long as we remained in the room. Not only were most students red eyed, but most teachers as well.
Being a Catholic, I attend a Catholic high school. We held a prayer service for him that morning. The entire students body was one sea of orange, the shade of his hair. By the end of the service even our priest, a religion teacher at school, had tears in his eyes. The entire school signed and posted small messages on a massive piece of paper meant for Jordan's parents. My classes were pretty much all the same until I reached health, the one class I had shared with Jordan. I nearly cried when I saw his empty seat and realized it would never be filled by him again.
Tuesday went by normally. But Wednesday, the day of the visitation, was horrible. I'd decided earlier I was going. Many freshmen went, and I'm extremely proud of them for that. Most didn't know him at all. It was a little different for me. Not only had I attended the same grade school as Jordan, but my cousin had been good friends with him before high school. At the visitation I cried harder than ever. It didn't look like Jordan at all. In fact, I still cry when I think about it. The almost neckless, swollen and distorted face looked nothing like the smiling Jordan I saw everyday.
The funeral was held the next day, and there were very few dry eyes in the gym. They played a slide show, showing pictures from the day he was born until picture day of his sophomore and final year of high school. And what else is there to say about funerals? It was a nice ceremony and beautifully arranged, but when you know it was a funeral you never should have been attending, you kind of forget to pay attention. And with tears blurring your vision most of the time, it's hard to find beauty in such a sad thing.
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Post by Lily Paris on Apr 4, 2006 9:21:12 GMT -5
Ana I know how you feel I lost a friend close to me but I knew how it felt for the parents so godbless them
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Post by Anne Bones on Aug 3, 2006 23:54:02 GMT -5
i am so sorry for everyone who lost a family friend or a love one. it really shows that life can be here one second and gone the next.
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Post by Ashley Zitren on Aug 6, 2006 1:31:06 GMT -5
Ana, I know this is a little later, but I am sorry for you losses.
Seat belts are a VERY important thing. For me, driving, I almost always put my seatbelt on after i had started getting down the road, however that changed when I saw the impact of a seatbelt. I was in a car accident 2 years ago, and it was classified as hazardous conditions. It was raining, and as I hit a curve (going BELOW the speed limit), my front wheel hit a pothole filled with water, and I began to hydroplane (where it skids over top of water and looses traction against the ground) and didn't realize the two major things that help, things that they DIDN'T teach in drivers school. When hydroplaning, do NOT apply brakes, and do NOT turn wheel in any direction other then straight. I, for one, slammed on my break, and clutch(its a stick), and I tried to correct the spin, as i had started spinning out towards the left. Well, I spun out and hit a wall head on.
I ended up dislocating both of my knees (one knee went into my stickshift, while the other into the window crank) and spraining my ankle (got caught under the pedals), but I had one more mark, and now scar that I will always remember. When the policeman tried to say I was "an irresponsible teanager that wasn't even wearing a seatbelt", I caught him off guard. I had a burn across my neck... from my seatbelt. Being jerked against it caused it to rub agaist me... and i have a burn scar and indentation in my neck where it happened at to prove it.
Without my seatbelt on, Idon't know what would have happened to me... My airbag had come out, but who knows. I would have shot forward, but have had one leg caught because of the pedals... it would have been a LOT worse without a seatbelt.
Well, I hope this has showed somewhat of the importance of a seatbelt... it saves lives.
Ashley
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Post by Liz Ohtar on Aug 21, 2006 18:33:44 GMT -5
I am so sorry this is late. But i want you to know that my prayers go with the family Friends and every one who knew him. Just this week my dads cousins son and Daughter died in a car crash. 16 and 15 i think. But she was driving home and she had rolled the car and smashed head on into a tree. I just want you to know that I am all ways here and i am very sorry for your loss.
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